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Don't chase looks, or love.
By: Kristina Tsipouras, November 16, 2015
I am 29, and it took this long to value my self worth. I have never spoken publicly about this subject, but I feel confident enough now to share my story. As a teenager, I developed early, and have received plenty of male attention my entire life, yet, I have always struggled with my self worth and value. I felt safe dating people who loved me more than I loved them, and stayed in relationships too long because of this. I actually defined a lot of my self worth on the attention I received. Growing up, society put so much emphasis on size, looks, and perfection. Young people today gain so much false self-esteem by being praised for shallow compliments based on looks and attractiveness. Does this do anything for their soul? Does it help self value, worth and confidence? I believe the answer is no. Some of the most attractive people I have ever come across in my life, actually have the lowest self esteem. There is a missing link here, that society tends to over-look.

I personally, have always considered myself attractive, I have always loved my body, but I could always be better, I could always look a little more perfect. I never felt satisfied, and continued to be hard on myself. I still struggle with perfectionism, but I have taken control of many areas of my life, and one is knowing my self worth and value & never letting a man define that for me.

At the age of 29, I broke a pattern. This pattern was letting men into my life who were simply not good for me. I became picky for the first time, and didn't just jump at male attention. I am currently dating a good amount, and even when I feel a connection, get excited, go on a few dates, and it turns out that it just isn't going to work out? Well, I simply say, "on to the next!" And there is always a next. The truth of the matter is, when you value yourself, your worth & your time, you simply stop having time for people who aren't a perfect match, or for anyone who treats you any less than you deserve. To create this shift in my life, and to not let anyone, especially a man, determine my self worth & happiness, it is the most brilliant gift I have ever received. It takes time to get there, it takes practice & tools, but I tell you, no matter who you are, no matter what you look like, you can get there. Could you imagine life if you decided to never let another person determine your happiness? What if you had full control over it, no matter what life brings? This my friends, is enlightenment, and it is strong. Once it is learned, it cannot be undone. Sure, I still have moments of weakness, but these moments only last a few minutes, a few hours at most. But soon after, they shift into brilliant lessons, courage & strength to move forward, and to keep the focus on me.

Begin here: Value and accept rejection. It is such a valuable part of the process, and a blessing, if you let it be. Rejection, on their end, or on yours, is honestly just not a perfect match of two souls. Nothing more, nothing less. I challenge you, to re-define your own meaning of rejection, and what it truly means to you. Give it a purpose, give it a value and you will never let the dissapointment be greater than the lesson.

Most of my friends have now settled down, found 'the one' and have started lives with a partner by their side. I have never taken the tradition role in life. I enjoy pushing boundaries, and taking the road less traveled. I suppose this makes sense as to why I have not yet settled down with one person. The facts are that men come in and out of my life. Some that seem so perfect on paper, that make me feel good, but still, something feels off. Sure, I could have settled down with someone by now, but my biggest fear is settling. I am waiting for my best friend. The person who is capable of pushing me to be a better person, just as I hope to do the same for them. The person who has taken time to work on themselves, and not settle for anything less than an amazing life and happily ever after. No matter what age you are, if you have not yet found your life partner, do not get frustrated. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. After all, the happiest couples that I have come across, met later in life, when they were fully developed into the person they wanted to become. They conquered the world, solo. From that, they learned valuable lessons, that only change you, when you allow yourself to be vulnerable. The most engligtened people in this world, have seen some of the darkest times. Always look towards the light, and know that you deserve the most amazing love, partner and your happy ever after. The opportunity will come, when the timing is right. Please, let go, trust the process, settle down & have some fun along the way!

Our society today has hit its ultimate shallow peak, and confidence and self-esteem in young women are suffering as a result. We are starting to see a break in patterns with new movements such as 'strong is the new skinny.' So ladies & gentleman, there is hope. But as a community, we need to lift ourselves up, before we can offer this help & guidance to others. Join the movement, and spread hope. Especially to the young society today, they need it most.

All my love,

Kristina
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